So I guess we have a hell lot of “Yes, Man” & “Yes, Woman” around us. Would add the “Yes, Boy” & Yes, Girl” as well just so that, they don’t feel left out. :p
In our heads, most of the times we are like: ’You seem to be talking to one of my other personalities …can’t hear you..nope ,still not a word…say what? :p
So , yeah …we all have this terrible terrible habit of saying “Yes” to everything even if in our mind we are like “It’s a Noooooooo…….go away for god’s sakes”. We can’t say “No”. Damn it , I am definitely one of those people too. It’s not like I want to say “no” to anything to everything . I am happy to be at your service whenever “possible”. Reason behind me writing “Possible” in quotes is that , we happen to say yes to things even if we know it’s gonna screw up our things & will be coming right back at us ..as a bad timing thing. So these are the things that we should say “No” to.
‘Dude, I know you are in the middle of a TV-Series , but can I have your laptop for my trip? I’d be really bored!..you can continue once I get back.’
What do you expect I do… Hmm..( Note: the one asking is not even a friend..some friends’ friend that I happen to bump into)..maybe a friend borrowing it when I was in the middle of it..won’t actually happen/bother ‘coz they actually are sensible enough to understand….most of ‘em are at least :p. I say: “You can have it” . But trust me when I say this , I was miserable throughout the week guessing what happens next & when I got it back , I sure got over the point where I am even vaguely interested in watching what happens next.
Let say , your colleague asks for a favor knowing that you are already overloaded with work. One time thing..ok..Help the poor soul..Second time..Ok let’s do it for him/her for one last time..One more time….what the…?
Say “No” not in a way that can get your ass fired right away but in a way that sounds polite, reasonable & convincing.
Never say “Yes” to others when you are actually saying “No” to yourself.
P.S. – In the next post will let you know about some ways(funny or serious..it’s how you take/give it) to actually say “No” to things that you would love to avoid.